Monday, June 10, 2013

Giving Your Comfort The Proper Way

Surprisingly, the most common lines we usually hear people say when somebody is grieving or sad are not actually the right things to say. Like the following below for instance...

When a friend or a person is sad, we usually try to cheer him/her up. This actually feels irritating because it makes you feel dismissed! The proper way to do it is; - ask how he/she feels.

According to Val Walker, a grieve educator, avoid preachy lines like "God never gives us more than we can handle" can help, but not for many (at least for that time). It is better to speak from what is inside your heart.

Avoid words like "I know just what you're going through"...because you just don't! Instead, say like "I can only imagine what you're going through".

Offer other specific forms of help such as "I'd like to bring dinner over tonight", instead of telling "Call me if you need me." No one likes to ask for help in times of bad loss or grieving!