Thursday, August 23, 2012

Learning The Tricks To Say No

Are you that person who can't seem to say "no"? Or do you keep saying "yes" when actually you want to say "no"? You can actually say "no" by doing it the right way, respectfully and thoughtfully.

First, if someone catches you off guard or if you're not sure about how you feel, give yourself the chance to think it over before answering. Tell the other person you'll get back to her at a certain time, then let yourself be in a quiet place and ask yourself if the request feels right.

Second, learn to find the "yes" part. It might be that you are wanting to say no because you need to say yes to something else such as guarding your money, sanity or time. Also, learn to look and decide at a given case scenario where your yes lies. For instance, your sister asks your help to cosign a loan, and you feel guilty not helping him out. But you are not saying no to him either - you're saying yes to protecting your children's college funds.

Another tip is that to avoid babbling wherein you don't need lengthy explanations to avoid debates and arguments. You don't need excuses... you just need to be apologetic, kind and with polite attitude.

State what could make the no become a yes by offering what you can. If you want to buy presents for your family, you have to tell me what you think they'd want and how much I should spend. Or if you can, suggest somewhere else to find what they need or someone else to help. Either way, be honest about what you can accomplish.

Finally, start moving dwelling, fretting or second-guessing. That's enough said!